Blameless Cheating Husbands?

A lot of cheated wives have publicly declared their unflinching support for their philandering husbands. What is most interesting about the situation is their display of outright wrath on the mistresses while totally removing the blame on their cheating spouses. Whether they actually believe themselves or not, what is clear is that they see the mistresses as the ones solely responsible for the affair. For them, their husbands can do no wrong and are just "victims" of these wily seductresses.

A cheated wife goes through a whole gamut of emotions that is not easily handled by anyone. Hurt, anger, jealousy, a sense of betrayal and sometimes denial, form part of the daily cycle of roller-coaster of emotions after spousal infidelity is discovered. Many women find it easier to blame another person than themselves and their husbands, for doing so would make them believe that the problem is caused by another. Somehow, the burden is lightened in having somebody else held responsible for the marriage trouble.

Wives who choose to attack spousal infidelity through this way may lose an important opportunity to resolve an existing reason why infidelity was committed in the first place. No amount of whitewashing of guilt on the part of the husband can erase his participation in the affair. It isn't as if he was held at gunpoint to take on a mistress.

At least one cheated wife has publicly admitted that she needed to put the guilt on someone else for her own well-being. Shifting the blame on another is a common form of coping mechanism. In this situation, the affected person draws strength from a belief that everything would have been okay if it were not for the actions of others.

It will not be surprising therefore to see wives bad-mouthing mistresses while declaring the innocence of their husbands in the same breathe. Others try to make it appear that they are not affected by their spouse's extra-marital affairs and accept infidelity as part of their husbands' manly nature. Every person has his/her reason for the decisions made in life. This includes the decision to stand firm beside a cheating spouse. This is a gamble where many have won and lost.