If there is one thing that can prevent couples from resolving the issue of spousal infidelity, it would most likely be denial of the truth. Both the cheater and the cheated can find themselves in a state of denial. The cheater can make believe that the cheating act is just a past time and a form of entertainment that should not threaten the marriage. On the other hand, the cheated can try to convince himself/herself that no cheating is taking place.
Cheaters can argue all they want about the harmlessness of their acts but the result will always be the deciding factor. When an act undermines the value of the relationship and the people involved in it, it would be very hard to see it as any less than harmful. When pain is given to another person or other people, especially those that comprise one's immediate family, it becomes the height of hypocrisy to defend cheating as a harmless act.
Cheated spouses who turn a blind side to their partner's cheating ways may succeed in preserving the marriage contract but stand no chance in preserving the marital relationship itself. Just because cheating is not acknowledged doesn't mean it does not exist. In most instances, the more it is denied, the more it flourishes.
Cheating is a fact in many marriages which needs to be recognized and handled in an appropriate manner. Denying its existence brings the affected couples no closer to the solution. The sooner it is addressed, the greater the chance of surviving marital infidelity.
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