Children of Infidelity

Infidelity not only produces casualties in cheated spouses but also in illegitimate children. These children are not given any choice when they come into this world as a product of illicit relationships. They are forced to carry a stigma not by their own doing and volition but by decisions made by two consenting adults, at least one of whom is legally committed to another.

Cheated spouses may find it harder to forgive their cheating partners when an affair produces offsprings. Although the children's absence of fault is easily recognized even by the most confused cheated spouse, the very existence of the children makes it more difficult to forgive and forget. How does one forget when there are living proofs of a spouse's unfaithfulness?

Having children also makes it impossible to completely cut off ties between the cheater and the paramour. Unless the cheater chooses to abscond from parental responsibility, communication lines between them will remain open. This gives rise to a very delicate situation for the cheated spouse who would understandably prefer for a total cut-off.

The fact that an illicit relationship produced children proves just how physical the relationship was. There is that constant fear on the part of the cheated spouse in the resumption of intimacy where communication is done not only for the children's sake but for the personal interests of the former lovers as well. Some have sought to remedy this situation by taking in the children into their own family but this option is not free of its own challenges as well.