So you've decided to forgive your cheating spouse, what now? How do you live your life together after infidelity? Will anything change between the two of you now that you've gone through the hurt and pain but decided to stick it out? If both of you are to rebuild your relationship, there better be changes done so you will not find yourselves in the same situation again.
Cheated spouses cannot forever live a life of doubt and anxiety, afraid that the erring spouse will cheat again. If they are to truly give the relationship a chance, they must be willing to trust again. They must also be willing to work on the relationship harder, now that they've realized that they are not exempt from the realities of infidelity.
Forgiven cheaters for their part should try even harder to win back the trust that has been lost. If they wish to rebuild the relationship they have broken with their cheating, they must make conscious efforts to alleviate the natural fears of their spouses. This is primarily done by avoiding circumstances and situations that led them to cheat. Their spouses may be forgiving but they're very human and can get very affected if there is nothing done to minimize the chances of a repeat cheating episode. Forgiving is one thing but forgetting is another.
If there is one time when affected spouses should talk openly. the time of rebuilding will be the perfect time. With the truth out and hopefully nothing else to hide or discover, each can be honest with the other to set new expectations that may be a lot different from when they first started the relationship.
Nobody is saying that the path to rebuilding a broken relationship is easy. In fact, it is so hard that many who have tried, failed in their efforts.
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