A person who commits infidelity and carries on a relationship with another, usually does so in the belief that things will be a lot better than it is with their marriage. A cheating husband may have found another woman who makes him feel more manly, alive, and in control. A cheating wife may have found another man who makes her feel beautiful, loved, and needed. Each believes that happiness lies in being with this other man/woman.
More often than not, they are just living an illusion. They are comparing two relationships that are very different from each other. Marriage or any other form of established relationships has to deal with the realities of life such as children, chores, and bills. Extramarital affairs do not have this kind of pressure. By the very nature of an illicit relationship, there is no commitment that disturbs the thrill and excitement experienced by the participants. The only pressure perhaps for people involved in cheating spouses is the pressure of getting caught.
People involved in an extramarital relationship have the chance of always putting their best foot forward. Infront of a paramour, he/she appears almost without fault. Their unmade-up appearance and worst behavior is reserved for their spouses who get to see the real person at home.
Most extramarital affairs travel the same route as destroyed marriages once they are subjected to the same pressures. The illusion of perfection crumbles to reveal the weakness of its foundation. Perennial cheaters lose no time in looking for other relationships as they create illusion after illusion.
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