Discovering spousal infidelity may result to varying reactions from cheated spouses. While there are two main ways of reacting namely to stay or leave, the level of pain felt by the spouse cheated on can possibly produce sub-reactions in between the process of forgiving or leaving. One potentially deadly reaction is to take revenge on a cheating spouse.
Revenge is about getting even, particularly in the same manner that a prior perceived injustice has been committed. Short of the extreme form usually referred to as crimes of passion, the vengeful spouse will zero in on the pain that has been created and retaliate by committing infidelity as well. A person in deep emotional pain may seek appeasement and satisfaction in having the cheating spouse get a dose of his/her own medicine.
The trouble with revenge is that it tends to skew a person's sense of right and wrong. As the cheated spouse aims to inflict the maximum emotional pain on the cheating spouse, he/she will find it very difficult not to be destroyed in the process. Cheated spouses should also stop and consider that their cheating partners possibly couldn't care less what they do thus the probability of going through the whole process and then ending up just hurting themselves even more.
Being cheated on has a way of revealing a certain aspect of an individual's personality never before known. While others cry, despair or leave, some choose to exact vengeance on the cheater. This move can backfire when the original cheating spouse ends up looking like an honorable spouse and the previously faithful spouse looks like a cheap cheat. There are other ways of punishing a cheater without muddling one's self.
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