Life provides lessons both in the negative and positive aspects. Betrayal by a loved one is just of the many experiences all of us would rather not have lessons of. No one, except probably for those who choose not to trust anyone as a partner in life, can ever be safe from the threats of infidelity. The price of gaining a loving experience is knowing the possibility that it can be taken away when someone else manages to take the attention of one's partner.
Suspect acts of cheating are signs for the couple to take notice of their relationship. Detecting them at an early stage can make the difference in preventing a full-blown unfaithful act. Sometimes, it only takes a timely intervention to demolish any hope or attempt to cheat. Sometimes, the probable cheater just needs to realize that his/her partner actually cares enough to take action.
Many cases of infidelity are admittedly pre-meditated or planned but there are also many that developed without meaning to. Whether planned or not, the gravity of the mistake may not differ but the hope in finding the resolution is much higher if the cheater did not purposely pursue the affair. It is quite obvious that one who seeks an extra-marital affair cannot be dissuaded to stop that easily. If a person purposely seeks out something, he/she feels that it must be obtained whatever the cost. If this the line of thinking of a cheater, nothing and absolutely nothing can stop him/her.
There is not one cure-all for infidelity. People learn as they commit mistakes in choosing a partner, in handling a marriage problem, and in reacting to a spouse's shortcomings. Relationships like marriage will always face challenges. Problems, no matter how hard we wish it away will not go away. It will come, it can destroy, but it can also strenghten. Instead of indulging in wasteful daydreaming for a perfect relationship, people who are into committed relationships would find themselves in a better position when they truly commit themselves to do what needs to be done including learning from mistakes.
Suspect acts of cheating are signs for the couple to take notice of their relationship. Detecting them at an early stage can make the difference in preventing a full-blown unfaithful act. Sometimes, it only takes a timely intervention to demolish any hope or attempt to cheat. Sometimes, the probable cheater just needs to realize that his/her partner actually cares enough to take action.
Many cases of infidelity are admittedly pre-meditated or planned but there are also many that developed without meaning to. Whether planned or not, the gravity of the mistake may not differ but the hope in finding the resolution is much higher if the cheater did not purposely pursue the affair. It is quite obvious that one who seeks an extra-marital affair cannot be dissuaded to stop that easily. If a person purposely seeks out something, he/she feels that it must be obtained whatever the cost. If this the line of thinking of a cheater, nothing and absolutely nothing can stop him/her.
There is not one cure-all for infidelity. People learn as they commit mistakes in choosing a partner, in handling a marriage problem, and in reacting to a spouse's shortcomings. Relationships like marriage will always face challenges. Problems, no matter how hard we wish it away will not go away. It will come, it can destroy, but it can also strenghten. Instead of indulging in wasteful daydreaming for a perfect relationship, people who are into committed relationships would find themselves in a better position when they truly commit themselves to do what needs to be done including learning from mistakes.
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