So many things have been said about midlife crisis in relation to marriage. Most marriage counsellors describe it as period wherein one or both spouses may be seeking answers to questions about their identity. It is described as a significantly stressful time in a relationship which can lead to certain actions that may be regretted in the future.
People undergoing a midlife crisis are middle-aged people experiencing low self-esteem, self-doubt, and depression. Their manifested depression is not actually clinical in nature but more of the type that is seen in moods. They are often struggling with personal issues and tend to focus on themselves rather than on others. They feel the need to find solutions to the depression felt and would usually resort to quick fixes to lighten the burden they are carrying, even if only temporarily.
One of the most common fixes sought is cheating on the spouse. Having one night stands or extramarital affairs fulfills the need for excitement, approval, and appreciation which are typically not provided in troubled marriages. Some don't even seek to destroy their marriage but only pursue affairs as a recreational need.
Many cheaters try to make excuses for their actions at the expense of pointing the fault to the faithful spouse. They are so engrossed in their own issues that they feel justified in finding ways to make themselves feel good even if it will cause pain to another. They can even be seen as giving in to their narcissistic tendencies when they put themselves first.
These actuations can result from genuinely feeling trapped in marriage, meaning that they actually feel trapped even without any manifestation or evidence of intent by their respective spouses to "control" them in any way in the relationship. Midlife infidelity can be a result of the perception that a person needs to do something out of the ordinary to revitalize a seemingly boring life. Some think of it as a way to regain control of their own lives, often forgetting that control is never achieved in irresponsible and impulsive decisions.
People undergoing a midlife crisis are middle-aged people experiencing low self-esteem, self-doubt, and depression. Their manifested depression is not actually clinical in nature but more of the type that is seen in moods. They are often struggling with personal issues and tend to focus on themselves rather than on others. They feel the need to find solutions to the depression felt and would usually resort to quick fixes to lighten the burden they are carrying, even if only temporarily.
One of the most common fixes sought is cheating on the spouse. Having one night stands or extramarital affairs fulfills the need for excitement, approval, and appreciation which are typically not provided in troubled marriages. Some don't even seek to destroy their marriage but only pursue affairs as a recreational need.
Many cheaters try to make excuses for their actions at the expense of pointing the fault to the faithful spouse. They are so engrossed in their own issues that they feel justified in finding ways to make themselves feel good even if it will cause pain to another. They can even be seen as giving in to their narcissistic tendencies when they put themselves first.
These actuations can result from genuinely feeling trapped in marriage, meaning that they actually feel trapped even without any manifestation or evidence of intent by their respective spouses to "control" them in any way in the relationship. Midlife infidelity can be a result of the perception that a person needs to do something out of the ordinary to revitalize a seemingly boring life. Some think of it as a way to regain control of their own lives, often forgetting that control is never achieved in irresponsible and impulsive decisions.
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