Uncovered in Death

The grieving husband appeared to have totally zoned out for some reason. The unexpected accident that led to the early demise of his wife left him with two young children to take care of alone and a Pandora's Box of questions that tend to put his wife's fidelity in serious doubt. Her body was found with the body of an identified man. She was also nowhere near where she was supposed to be having her business conference. In fact, the place of the accident was in one state while the conference venue was in another. Clearly, the wife failed or purposely did not give critical information that would have been ordinarily given if there was no intent to conceal something.

The spouse who gets left behind not only needs to carry on with the heavy family responsibility alone. He also has to contend with the pain of discovering that their marriage was a lie all along. He was led to believe that everything was fine. The wife never gave any clue regarding her affair. She was even faultless when it came to her spousal and parental responsibilities. No one would have ever guessed about her illicit relationship until her death gave her away.

The dead cheating spouse can no longer answer why she did what she did. How does a cheated spouse come to terms with the realities of infidelity when there is no one to answer his questions? It was like a marriage issue that will never have a closure except that it has been permanently closed by death.

Adding to the pain felt by the cheated spouse are possible legal concerns that may arise out of the uncovered relationship. Complications may be brought about by children born out of the affair, contracts that have been entered into without the knowledge of the legal spouse, and claims to properties of the deceased. This is probably the best time to consider appropriate legal and psychological advice.

Simultaneously felt emotions of love, disbelief, grief and anger can be quite confusing and unsettling. Infidelity uncovered only in death of the cheater is no less hurting than if the cheater was alive. The cheated spouse may go through hell in trying to recover from the unexpected blow but hopefully time will heal the pain.