You just came put of a movie house when you noticed an especially sweet couple coming out as well. You recognize the man as your best friend's husband but you don't see your best friend anywhere. Instead, you see an unidentified woman clinging to his arm, her attention completely caught by this man you can clearly identify.
What in the world are you supposed to do after this? Should you go running to your best friend to tell her about what you saw or should you keep your mouth shut and hope that everything was just a mistake that will quickly go away? Whatever you do, you know there is a burden to carry in knowing something not known to your friend.
When you hear your friend gush about how wonderful her husband is, you almost feel sick to your stomach. You feel pity for her trusting innocence while feeling hatred for her husband's cunning betrayal. However, you cannot help but feel somewhat afraid how any revelation you make can affect their relationship.
A true friend would know the difference between caring and intruding. Friends always give each other space while committing their all-out support. In the best interest of a friend who is possibly being cheated on by a spouse, it is best to get the facts straight before any revelation is done. Remember, we are dealing with real lives here and not mere games. There is no need to create unnecessary doubts with baseless rumors and unwarranted suspicions.
A possible option lies in confronting the cheater with what you know and informing him of your plan to tell your friend. Through this , suspicions are confirmed and the cheater is given the chance to come clean about his unfaithfulness to his spouse so the confrontation or ensuing talk will only involve the spouses themselves. When the cheater is forced to reveal his own infidelity, people who have unintentionally come to the knowledge of such cheating need not intrude more then necessary. You as a friend cannot make any decision pertaining to the relationship. There is consolation however in knowing that she has been given the truth from which she can base her own decisions.
What in the world are you supposed to do after this? Should you go running to your best friend to tell her about what you saw or should you keep your mouth shut and hope that everything was just a mistake that will quickly go away? Whatever you do, you know there is a burden to carry in knowing something not known to your friend.
When you hear your friend gush about how wonderful her husband is, you almost feel sick to your stomach. You feel pity for her trusting innocence while feeling hatred for her husband's cunning betrayal. However, you cannot help but feel somewhat afraid how any revelation you make can affect their relationship.
A true friend would know the difference between caring and intruding. Friends always give each other space while committing their all-out support. In the best interest of a friend who is possibly being cheated on by a spouse, it is best to get the facts straight before any revelation is done. Remember, we are dealing with real lives here and not mere games. There is no need to create unnecessary doubts with baseless rumors and unwarranted suspicions.
A possible option lies in confronting the cheater with what you know and informing him of your plan to tell your friend. Through this , suspicions are confirmed and the cheater is given the chance to come clean about his unfaithfulness to his spouse so the confrontation or ensuing talk will only involve the spouses themselves. When the cheater is forced to reveal his own infidelity, people who have unintentionally come to the knowledge of such cheating need not intrude more then necessary. You as a friend cannot make any decision pertaining to the relationship. There is consolation however in knowing that she has been given the truth from which she can base her own decisions.
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