We may just have heard all possible defenses for infidelity from cheaters. Coming straight from the horses' mouth, we do tend to take what they say with a grain of salt. After all, cheaters are the primary beneficiaries of infidelity.
They say infidelity creates excitement in marriage. Cheating spouses are said to learn new techniques in the sexual arena from their lovers which they bring into their relationship with the legal spouses. The novelty is said to provide added spice that will spark renewed interest with each other. But what happens if the excitement of the extramarital affair prevails over that of marriage specifically if sexual attraction is totally transferred to the third party, what is left for the legal spouse to be excited about?
They say infidelity allows needed space between spouses particularly for relationships bordering on boredom. Cheating spouses are said to come back to their legal spouses with renewed invigoration after an affair. They say they are able to appreciate their spouses more, after spending time with another. But what happens if the cheater becomes too comfortable with the affair and decides to make it permanent, what is left for the legal spouse to wait for?
Cheaters provide other variations of reasoning but always end up proving their tendency to center on themselves instead of on their partners or their marriages. On the occasions that focus is shifted to partners, it is usually to put blame on them. Most, if not all, seek to justify their acts of cheating at the expense of the partner.
So, is there any good side of infidelity? If we define good as something that brings satisfaction to humans, then at least to cheaters, there is, but if we equate good with something that is beneficial to humans in general, then there is none. Any selfish act, no matter how satisfactory to one but hurtful to another can ever be considered good.
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