Obsessively Private

The zealousness of cheaters in guarding their privacy from their spouse and family can be so obvious that it's difficult to miss. This is of course understandable because they are hiding their secrets. When a spouse becomes all too suddenly private to the point of obsession, it is highly probable that acts of unfaithfulness are being concealed.

A degree of privacy is a given even between married people but if access to information previously available are suddenly withheld for no clear reason except for claim to privacy, there is definitely something going on. Computer use, telephone use, bills and letters, are things we don't need to hide from our spouse except if they will reveal information that is sought to be hidden. Doubtful spouses should note how defensive their spouses become when their "privacy" is threatened. Many cheaters would be willing to pick a fight over it just to change the subject of discussion. Before the cheated spouse realizes it, he/she becomes at fault for being too snoopy and distrusting.

Cheating spouses will usually need to transfer to another room alone when he/she receives or makes calls. The manner of speaking tend to be hushed and the over-all behavior appears to be flustered and agitated. They seldom, if ever they do, leave their cellphones, bringing it with them even inside the bathroom at the pretext of waiting for an important business call. Messages received and sent are immediately deleted or an unknown number or numbers will usually be registered consistently on the phone.

Cheaters who use the computer for their activities would find reasons and ways to transfer the computer into a private area. The preferred place would usually be a room that can be locked so that they will not be caught by surprise when someone unexpectedly barges in. They will also take care to erase records of computer activity and have email messages deleted. Changing passwords or creating an account exclusively for cheating use are other options undertaken by determined cheaters.