There they are again, those mental images of your spouse's infidelity. They come and go as they please, always hurting you , over and over again. They zap your strength and willpower to forgive and forget so that you can move on.
Imagining scenes of infidelity is a natural reaction of a cheated spouse. Even without the benefit of seeing the paramour or knowing the explicit details of the affair, minds of cheated spouses can go on overtime in filling up the missing pieces that constitutes the unfaithful act or acts. Perhaps because of the degree of emotions involved, it is common to fill in the gaps with the most hurtful scenario possible. It can be part of the grieving and healing process to imagine the worse and get over it.
Holding on to these haunting images of infidelity for an extended period of time may prove unhealthy because of the understandably negative feelings that come in remembering the graphic portrayal of infidelity. Betrayed spouses have the right to feel hurt but this cannot go on forever. It has to stop, better sooner than later.
Cheated spouses can get rid of these images or at least lessen their impact to allow themselves to live productively. Experts recommend visualization techniques that will allow cheated spouses to eventually take control of their minds and imagination. People undergoing this stressful situation are advised to remember that these images are more of representations of their worse fears rather than actual scenes that took place. It may take more convincing and determination to erase images of infidelity that have actually been witnessed.
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