To some, being hooked on infidelity is like being hooked on an addictive substance. It is painfully difficult to let go yet it is very self-destructive to hold on to. The only way out of an addiction is to totally separate from it. There is no such thing as moderation, only cessation is acceptable.
Thus, when a cheater decides to end an affair, putting of the good-byes in the hope of cushioning the hurt will not work. The longer the affair, the stronger the emotions involved. Deciding to limit meeting the lover once a month instead of every week is not a real solution. Either it prolongs the inevitable or provides a reason to backslide on the decision to end the affair.
Continued exposure to the object of addiction, which is the lover or the mistress in the case of infidelity is counter-productive to the efforts to fix a troubled marriage. Cheaters cannot have their cake and eat it too. Either they choose the legal spouse or their unfaithful ways.
A person hooked on infidelity will not stop with the loss of a mistress or a lover since they are replaceable. The fiercest competitor of the faithful spouse in this case is not a specific third party but the inherent cheating ways of the cheater. It is almost useless to concentrate on getting rid of a lover or a mistress since anyone can easily take their place unless the cheater decides to control his/her addiction proactively by seeking professional help.
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