From the cheater's point of view, grass is always greener on the other side of the fence. Otherwise, why would he desire someone else when he has a loving wife by his side? The object of desire will always have more attributes than the legal spouse or so the cheating spouse thinks.
People who are unknowingly being cheated on by their spouses will always find themselves suffering in comparison when compared to the lover. The advantage could be in looks, attitude, economic status, or anything else that can be used to justify the change of heart of the cheater. In the critical stage of being enamored, cheated spouses may not have the power to prevent the infidelity even if they had prior knowledge of their spouse's intention. There is not much that can prevent a cheater who believes that he is entitled to his desired actions.
A cheater can blame a wife who appears to have forgotten to take care of her physical appearance even if she is saddled with domestic responsibilities. He can also blame her for not having enough time for him even if she has to attend to all the needs of the children while holding a job of her own to augment the family's income. He can even call her a bore for not being a good conversationalist even if she is not allowed to pursue activities for her personal development.
From a cheater's point of view, the fault lies with the cheated partner because she has allowed herself to sink to a level way below his expectations. Sadly, this is how most cheaters think. They can even be crude enough to call themselves victims of their faithful spouse's neglect. It is one thing to cheat and another to cheat and blame the cheated.
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