Just Looking

A husband who looks on other women and checks them out cannot be considered a cheater (not yet anyway). Let's face it, looking is one way of appreciating beauty but it does not necessarily mean that a man will act on it to the extent of committing infidelity. When a man is simply looking, can it be safe to assume that no actual harm was done to the relationship?

There is no definite yes or no answer to this question. The answer will depend on the manner of looking, the situations where obvious appreciation for other women is manifested, and the effect it has on the wife. Many couples have been known to be very straightforward in showing their appreciation of a member of the opposite sex in spite of the presence of the other. Lack of discomfort in showing appreciation usually represents absence of malice and therefore generally does not give rise to marital concerns.

A man who shows appreciation for other women while putting his wife down in comparison is seriously courting trouble if not asking for it. Men by nature show what they think of a woman in they way they look at her and this is not about to change because they are married. They are however, expected to "tone down" their appreciation to give due respect to their wives. After all, they surely wouldn't like it if their wives turn the tables and ogle at attractive men to the degree that will place them at a lower level.

Now men who look, flirt, and initiate further contact with the object of visual appreciation are considered candidates for infidelity. These are men who are not content with mere looking as they seek to go beyond by"sampling" the ware. Women don't have to suffer in silence by tolerating their partners' roving eyes. They can frankly express their discomfort at such actions in the hope that their partners will achieve the sensitivity to act accordingly. When a man does not cease to look, maybe it's about time for a woman to look for other prospects.