Anger and shock are the most natural reactions of people who discover that their spouses have been playing the field behind their backs. There is probably no harder situation than to come face to face with a cheating spouse and his/her lover. It would take extraordinary strength to resist being violent in such an unexpected confrontation. Cheated spouses who allow restraint to prevail come out better in the eyes of everyone when they choose not to do what is expected of them.
We have been witnesses one way or the other to violent confrontations between legal spouses, cheating spouses, and their lovers. It almost always turns out ugly and uglier still when the aggrieved spouse ends up mortally hurting the offenders or being hurt themselves. In such a scandalous situation, there is no telling which side the cheater will take. We can just imagine the extent of humiliation of a cheated spouse when the cheater chooses to defend the lover in such a crucial moment.
Though quite difficult to do, it would be advisable for the cheated spouse to walk away from the situation to be able to think more clearly of the next step to take. Walking away does not mean giving up, it is merely allowing one's self to be detached from the hurtful scene long enough to arrive at rational decisions. As long as the pain of aggrieved spouses is still raw and fresh, there is greater tendency for violent altercations to take place.
The greatest source of pain in catching a cheating spouse in the act is the mental picture that has been created whether one likes to or not. It is a picture that will not go away for a long time which may induce the commission of violent acts. Cheated spouses can show that they are definitely better than their cheating spouses by resisting the strong urge for violence in the face of spousal cheating.
No comments:
Post a Comment