Play Dumb and Catch the Cheat

Instead of playing the highly-strung doubting spouse, why not consider playing dumb and clueless to beat your cheating spouse in his/her own game. Voicing out suspicions without the benefit of proof just sends out warning signals to the erring spouse to be more careful. The more care he/she exerts, the more the acts of infidelity are concealed.

When you are trying to ferret out the truth, you wouldn't want the suspect infidel to be forewarned of your intended actions. The best way to go about in confirming the real score is to get as much information as possible that will clearly establish the infidelity. Cheating spouses are especially adept at telling the difference between a spouse fishing for information and a spouse who is sure of his/her accusations.

A doubting spouse who is clearly bluffing his/her way to a desired confession from the suspected spouse may just get a healthy dose of more lies. It should be noted that cheaters do not usually provide confirmation of infidelity unless they are absolutely cornered to admitting it. This cannot happen unless irrefutable evidence is presented.

The most powerful weapon to use in a cheating spouse is to allow him/her to believe that a cheated spouse has no idea of the infidelity. This can serve to embolden the cheaters, making them more careless and prone to slip-ups. Suspicious spouses should be ready and keenly observe those signs that will finally reveal the cheating spouses' secret.