If you intend to cheat but are not ready to lose your spouse in the process, be sure that you can get away with it or face your greatest fear. Many cheating spouses treat infidelity as a past time or a break from the monotony of a marriage that has lost its element of excitement. Separating however from their legal spouses is the farthest thing from their minds.
What is the secret of cheaters who managed to hide their affairs in a span of years from their partners? Are they such super human beings that they are able to equally attend to the needs of two men or two women without arousing suspicion, not to mention the children, if there are? Though difficult, it has proven by many cheaters that they can get away with cheating with their spouses none the wiser.
If we are to talk about strategies to avoid detection, cheaters will most probably agree that there is the basic need to maintain the status quo. This means avoiding making changes that would alert the suspicion of the cheated spouse, including minute changes that spouses can be very sensitive to.
The surest giveaway for any cheating spouse is abdicating from the responsibility of a spouse and a parent. Neglecting or refusing to perform the expected obligations to a spouse or a child is usually a sign that someone else is occupying the main position of attention in a cheating spouse's life. Long-undetected cheaters know that they have to keep their legal spouse and family happy and contented if they wish to be continually trusted that nothing is amiss.
A certain level of self-control is required to be exercised by the cheater to effectively balance attention, time, and even finances between two parties. Some gain commendable expertise on this. It is ironic that they are able to put control in maintaining two households but are unable to control themselves from cheating.
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