A couple has been married for ten years and has been engaged for four years prior to the marriage. On their tenth wedding anniversary, the wife confesses that she had sexual relations with another man while they were engaged. The husband was devastated and felt unable to trust his wife after the confession.
The wife is equally devastated and depressed for having caused such pain to her husband. She has been carrying the guilt of her infidelity for quite a time that she thought it would be better if she came clean even if it happened a long time go. Seeing her husband's reaction, she isn't quite sure anymore if she did the right thing.
For whatever it's worth, the wife's confession took a lot of courage to do but the guilt that she had to carry all these years is the consequence of her previous mistake. The prudence of confessing at a time when it can do more harm than good remains in question. Many will see it as a selfish act since the main purpose appears to be of relieving the guilt of the cheater rather than wanting to be honest to the spouse.
In the context of forgiving an erring spouse, the cheated partner can seriously take into consideration the time element of the cheating episode and can look into the brighter side that it did not occur in marriage. Of course, cheating is never right regardless of when it happened during the course of the relationship but a promising relationship can be wasted if forgiveness of a long-finished infidelity cannot be done.
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