For a person hopelessly in love with a partner or at least with the idea of them being together, hope springs eternal. First they think that marriage will do the trick and reform a habitual cheater. When it doesn't, they go one step further and make believe that having a child may just end a spouse's cheating adventures.
Having a child generally draws out specific maternal or paternal instincts that encourages one to be better than what he or she is. This would probably explain about the idea of many cheated spouses that a child might just what be what the doctor ordered for an ailing marriage. Accepted parenting standards say that a good father or mother will have to be a good spouse as well.
Standards however, may be far from reality. Although it makes sense to argue that one can only be a really good parent if marital trust and respect is maintained, there are cheaters who appear to have the uncanny ability to make parenthood and marital partnerships separate and distinct from each other. Thus we see children choosing a cheating father or mother over a faithful one just because the cheater behaves like the perfect doting parent.
Having a child will not cure a cheating spouse. It even sometimes add on to whatever internal conflict a cheater is going through. If a person is not ready to give up his or her cheating ways when commitment is given to the partner, there is nothing that will indicate that he or she will give it up with the coming of a child.
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