Stepping Out From the Shadow of Spousal Infidelity

And so it came to pass that your husband of many years cheated on you and now you are left alone to carry on with family responsibilities and mending your broken heart. He did not only deprive you of a spouse, he also deprived your children of a father when he chose to leave you for his other woman. His infidelity casted a shadow on a once happy home, sucking you and your children to the depths of depression you never imagined existed.

After a reasonable period of "grieving" and sorting out through the confusing emotions, people who have been victimized by spousal infidelity must resolve to step out of its shadow towards the light of a better tomorrow. We are sometimes tempted to see this part as cliche but it is true. People do recover from the most painful experiences in life and turn out better than they expected.

In fact, it is much easier to recover from a debacle brought upon by another instead of recovering from pain you brought on another. This comparative ease is brought upon by the absence of guilt which cannot be said for the cheater. In this regard, the cheated spouse is better off than her cheating counterpart.

Stepping out from the shadow of spousal infidelity consists of taking positive steps towards recovery. It may require forgiving without necessarily forgetting. It will definitely need recognizing the truth that the cheating is solely the decision of the cheating partner and should not be a burden on the faithful spouse as she tries to make a new life of her own.