It is one thing not to know of your spouse's infidelity and another to deny its existence even in the face of insurmountable evidence. Cheated spouses who are in denial of their partners' cheating find comfort in "not knowing". They sometimes miss the point that not knowing is entirely different from denying.
It is true that what we don't know won't hurt us if hurt simply means being in physical or emotional pain from the betrayal. What we sometimes forget is that infidelity can hurt us in some other way like when all other people already know the truth. People close to us who are aware of the problem can be hurting for us and in serious dilemma of whether to divulge what they know or not.
Some people would prefer to live in blissful ignorance rather than suffer the pain of truth. Although this attitude scores some points for positiveness, it is not always the best action to take when something as important as marriage is at stake. We cannot drive away spousal infidelity by ignoring it. In fact, ignoring the obvious signs of cheating can be seen by the cheating spouse as a license to continue being unfaithful.
Most cheated spouses would know that they are being cheated on. Most of the time, the only thing lacking is hard evidence. You may get hurt seeking out the truth but it is only the truth that can wake you from inaction.
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